Appreciating the Ghosts of Christmas Past - November 28, 2012
Well, I hope you all survived the feast that is Thanksgiving. It is my favorite holiday. It’s all about family, friends, food and gratitude. And the tradition in my home is start decorating for Christmas that Saturday and Sunday. My daughter’s birthday is three days after Christmas, so this entire season is all about Jesus and Kate. As many do that celebrate Christmas, we take out our decorations and all our ornaments tell a story. We have multiple themed trees. The main family tree has most of the ornaments. We are tacky tourists and have an ornament from just 
about every where we go.
There is the Victorian Tree which dons my decor from the mid-80-’s, which is when I first started my ‘own’ Christmas collecting after college. There is the Sports Tree, which is mostly golfers and Buffalo Bills (for die-hard husband who grew up there.) And the ‘Hummel Tree’ – I inherited a collection from my mom and my mother-in-law blessed me with many ornaments over the years. Then of course there is the ‘Barbie Tree’ my daughters claim. I get a very special feeling when I unwrap these treasures this time of year. Kate is old enough and gentle enough to help me now, so she is learning all the stories associated with these gifts. It is a healthy practice to remember who gave that one to you, and then think about them, and how those moments in time shaped your life. Some clients choose to forget the past and move on. Others dwell too much and let it drag them down. I believe there is wisdom in the past, and lessons to pull from.
This is probably my favorite ornament. My mom, who passed suddenly from a heart attack in 1979 when I was 16 years old, made it circa 1973. I remember she made many of these, and the pins, ribbon and bling were scattered on the crafts table. The loving memories of my childhood sweep in when I hang it prominently on the Victorian Tree, and everything else surrounds it. Plus blue was her favorite color.
This ballerina was given to me by a mentor and surrogate mom when I was getting married in 1988. Nancy Ryder Shay-she was a significant woman in my life at the time. She was nurturing and loving when I needed it most.
This cross-stitch Santa was my one and only attempt at needlework. (It is unfortunate, my mom was brilliant at needle work, and I did not pick up any of those skills.) I attempted to fit into my then-Cincinnati neighborhood and joined Kindervelt. They had 
KinderMart and I made this ornament for the fundraising event. It took me 12 hours. I used to joke with my neighbor Sue that it was the most expensive ornament at the sale if you consider my hourly salary multiplied by 12. Instead, she bought it for me for $5.00 and surprised me. I still LOL when I unwrap the thing. Never again.
My mother-in-law and Todd’s grandfather ‘Pipe’ painted these by hand. Back in the 60′s they did not have a lot of disposable income to spend on ornaments, so they made these precious trinkets and I begged her to let me have a set for our tree.
Procter & Gamble and my time in Cincinnati was spectacular. I met life long friends and mentors and my career was launched and focused. I was fortunate for 13 years at P&G. I followed and was inspired by a myriad of leaders. We left P&G in 2001 to move to Maryland to be with my precious step-daughter Lexie who is now in college. When we left OH, it was difficult as my friends became my family. And it is ornaments like this that I can recall such memories. P&G was the foundation for starting The Ermi Group. Learning is a core value there and that company invested so much in my development. I had a formal mentor, 
was part of a high potential program, and was given rotational job opportunities. I had a global role, traveled the world, was exposed to incredible diversity, and started coaching very talented leaders. It’s where I caught the leadership development bug. These programs are critical in any leadership development strategy.
Travel has always been a big part of our lives as it is for so many. Before Kate, we were big fans of California wine country. The smells, the people (one of my mentors retired there and we got first class tours and treatment!) and the wine of course! Visiting my parents on trips to Newport, RI and seeing the beautiful mansions decorated for Christmas. And business trips to Germany, where I learned these little handmade ornaments are quite popular. And the cardinal’s bird house I won in a fun ornament swapping party picked out by a woman I greatly admire. These are moments that allow for the space to appreciate. A leadership skill we can all work towards improving.
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Jonathan Pontell - 2005
Welcome to the first edition of The Ermi Group Blog. I am new to this great media phenomenon so I will be starting out with a combination of original posts, and also asking some of my amazing friends and colleagues to be guest bloggers!
Ever get exposed to a new concept and then not be able to get enough of it? That is my new obsession of Generation Jones. Jonathan Pontell coined the term and it has been on TV and various news programs, but I apparently missed it, as have most of the “Joneses” I know. I have heard a few versions of who is included in this new sub-generation. But it makes perfect sense that the group I belong to has to have it’s own subset. For years I thought I related to being a Baby Boomer, in fact, I recall proudly categorizing myself in this group of esteemed trailblazers when I was in my late 20s and early 30s. It seemed to fit, sort of, and I always had a thing for being “the youngest” to achieve something, or receive an award, or be promoted or following in my dad’s footsteps, yet a few years earlier than he achieved milestones. Then, I was no longer in the “high potential” up and comer group. The Generation X crowd took over and they had a beat of their own. They did not seem to want to work as many hours as I was. They came in later than I did and had a life. I was a little jealous at the life, but then a little bitter that I was putting in tremendous hours and seemingly being paid the same. Then that was back in the day that the good ole boys tolerated having women because they had a quota. Wow, we really have come a long way. Women in the workforce is a given, but the data seems to support that we still are not paid equally.
I have in recent years shared with my coaching clients that while I worked ridiculous hours and climbed the ladder and won awards, there is not one person in my life that was around when I put in all those hours, ruined my first marriage, and took the verbal abuse of my senior leaders that were bigots and chauvinists. Yes, we have come a long way. My two daughters will have it easier potentially, and I had it easier than the women that blazed that trail before me. Recently my husband purchased Season One of the classic drama thirtysomething. It debuted in 1987, two years into my professional career. I remember watching it every Tuesday night at 9 pm (or 10?) Hope, Michael, Nancy, Elliot, Melissa, Gary and Ellyn were a part of our family. It was the first show that really represented who we were becoming.
While I was really twentysomething, these were our role models. The Don Draper of the late 80s. And interestingly, ad men of 90s vs the MadMen of the 60s. These two shows have really been weighing on me and my need to write and to describe the journey to ultimately help the Millennials get ready to take on their legacy. Events and culture shape our lives, and this sub-set born between 1953-1964 had some influences that may mirror the Millennials (Millies-some say Gen Y, but my 18 year old Millie likes Millennials better so that is what I will call her!). Korea, Kennedy’s, Vietnam, Man on the Moon, TV dinners, and a lot of expectations that we will attend college (if socioeconomically we were fortunate of enough to have this as an option) but once we came of age, the environment was very different. Now we live a life of abundance and excess. We are ‘Jonesing” even still. My husband makes fun of me but I am always dreaming about the future, about home improvements, about vacations, about fun, about hard work, about what’s next. While I do not think we have to keep up with Joneses because we are the Joneses, we are redefining ourselves, wanting to keep up and connect with the generation being poised to replace us.
People I train in performance management and consult with I hear complaining about how the Millennials are spoiled, they expect rewards and positive feedback all the time, and if they are not satisfied with their growth, they move on. They do not want or need to pay their dues, which the Jonesers most certainly had to. But we RAISED these people! We gave them stickers for going potty, celebrated their every move! Over-engineered their lives with soccer, basketball, pep squad, piano lessons, AP classes, and lavish birthday parties. Of course they want to be rewarded. We did it to them, and now it is hardwired. They don’t know any other way. And now we complain about it. We need to get over ourselves and embrace them, throw them a bone of praise when they deserve it and learn from them. They know technology like no one’s business. When I was in high school there was one mammoth computer for the entire school, in college there were a few in a separate classroom and we had to sign up to get time with it. There was no email, there were not even answering machines never mind voicemail and text. The Millennials have leveraged technology from the get go. In fact my 4 ½ year old downloaded How to Survive High School and Tetris on my cell phone (before it was ‘Smart”) at 9 months old and actually figured out how to find it! I didn’t even know I had it until my bill was $40 higher one month! Now she wizzes through the iPad and programs and downloads her own Netflix movies. I better learn how to use those parental controls with this one!
So what does all this mean about leadership? What did Gen Joneses learn that mainline Boomers may not have?
What do Millennials seek that will keep them happy in the workforce? What will the Feds do when the Boomers “bail out?” Will the Millennials find a career in the Feds satisfying and meaningful? What does a heart for public service mean in this day and age and era? What will the legacy be of the Millennials? What will be their unique brand of leadership?
Some of my peers and older would complain about all the texting and lack of verbal and handwritten communication of this latest generation. “They won’t even know how to interview or have a conversation.” I am not sure this is true. The Millennials I have met and coached are eager, and want to contribute. Perhaps their written communication skills look a lot different than mine did, I am not sure it really matters as long as the message comes across as intended. In my early email days, more conflict arose from the written word and our little voices/gremlins inside reading it in the wrong tone. Maybe some needless conflict would have been avoided with a LOL or J icon.
The days of the “my way or the highway” boss is dwindling. These Millies watched us take our beatings, get laid off with and without severance, and line up in the unemployment line. The job market now is not unlike that of the early 80s before those memorable Reagan years of prosperity. They are not going to take it and we need to just deal with that. “You’re lucky to have a job” does not resonate with this group. Their needs are different, they had everything growing up, they lived a life of abundance, and they really are looking for simplicity.
My next post will be more on this topic and what I have learned about leadership!
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about every where we go.
There is the Victorian Tree which dons my decor from the mid-80-’s, which is when I first started my ‘own’ Christmas collecting after college. There is the Sports Tree, which is mostly golfers and Buffalo Bills (for die-hard husband who grew up there.) And the ‘Hummel Tree’ – I inherited a collection from my mom and my mother-in-law blessed me with many ornaments over the years. Then of course there is the ‘Barbie Tree’ my daughters claim. I get a very special feeling when I unwrap these treasures this time of year. Kate is old enough and gentle enough to help me now, so she is learning all the stories associated with these gifts. It is a healthy practice to remember who gave that one to you, and then think about them, and how those moments in time shaped your life. Some clients choose to forget the past and move on. Others dwell too much and let it drag them down. I believe there is wisdom in the past, and lessons to pull from.
KinderMart and I made this ornament for the fundraising event. It took me 12 hours. I used to joke with my neighbor Sue that it was the most expensive ornament at the sale if you consider my hourly salary multiplied by 12. Instead, she bought it for me for $5.00 and surprised me. I still LOL when I unwrap the thing. Never again.
was part of a high potential program, and was given rotational job opportunities. I had a global role, traveled the world, was exposed to incredible diversity, and started coaching very talented leaders. It’s where I caught the leadership development bug. These programs are critical in any leadership development strategy.
